Oh this is so great - the potential:joy trade-off is very true. Around my late thirties, a couple of things happened that shocked me into realizing the "potential" bit of my life was over: I think by that point, everyone is living to some extent in the irrevocable product of the choices they've made. And that's quite sobering. But there's also a solidity to being older, a weight and substance to the life you have because it's the only life you are going to have. I really value that feeling and genuinely wouldn't trade it for what came before.
Wow, I always thought it was Billy Corrigan. Same last name as a guy I used to date. The first time I saw you’d written Corgan I thought it was a typo. The second time, I knew I must be wrong.
I’m so glad for you that you went to the gig!! This story made me tearful, I love the way live music gifts you that simultaneous duality of being so present in your own individual body and so at home as a member of a likeminded collective. Discovering my love of music saved my life - it was my permanent and often only companion, and I had a similar ‘full circle’ experience with Linkin Park, who wrote the soundtrack to the dark and malignant mire of my teens.
I finally saw them live just before I turned 30 and it was everything to me. The poignant final note was that the gig I attended was one of the very last shows they played before Chester Bennington took his own life, a path that his music helped keep me from. I was devastated, but it gave me the bittersweet perspective to truly see just how far I’d come.
Thank you for sharing, I don’t know the Smashing Pumpkins very well so I’m going to go check them out ✨
Oh, this made me tear up a little. I can very much relate to this feeling. It's not easy at all to finally make peace with your past choices and be kind to your younger self. And I totally agree that not taking yourself too seriously helps tremendously - generally for being well and alive in this world.
I resonated with this. I was a punk in the 70’s and I loved going to see all the bands. It got me through puberty. At the time I thought I would be a pink haired punk forever but i wasn’t & it was of it’s time and life moves on. But essentially those experiences help inform and develop us and I’ll be a punk at heart until I die.
Oh this is so great - the potential:joy trade-off is very true. Around my late thirties, a couple of things happened that shocked me into realizing the "potential" bit of my life was over: I think by that point, everyone is living to some extent in the irrevocable product of the choices they've made. And that's quite sobering. But there's also a solidity to being older, a weight and substance to the life you have because it's the only life you are going to have. I really value that feeling and genuinely wouldn't trade it for what came before.
Yes to all of this ❤️❤️
Wow, I always thought it was Billy Corrigan. Same last name as a guy I used to date. The first time I saw you’d written Corgan I thought it was a typo. The second time, I knew I must be wrong.
I’m so glad for you that you went to the gig!! This story made me tearful, I love the way live music gifts you that simultaneous duality of being so present in your own individual body and so at home as a member of a likeminded collective. Discovering my love of music saved my life - it was my permanent and often only companion, and I had a similar ‘full circle’ experience with Linkin Park, who wrote the soundtrack to the dark and malignant mire of my teens.
I finally saw them live just before I turned 30 and it was everything to me. The poignant final note was that the gig I attended was one of the very last shows they played before Chester Bennington took his own life, a path that his music helped keep me from. I was devastated, but it gave me the bittersweet perspective to truly see just how far I’d come.
Thank you for sharing, I don’t know the Smashing Pumpkins very well so I’m going to go check them out ✨
❤️❤️❤️ thank you for this message, this is exactly it. So glad you got to have that experience
Oh, this made me tear up a little. I can very much relate to this feeling. It's not easy at all to finally make peace with your past choices and be kind to your younger self. And I totally agree that not taking yourself too seriously helps tremendously - generally for being well and alive in this world.
I resonated with this. I was a punk in the 70’s and I loved going to see all the bands. It got me through puberty. At the time I thought I would be a pink haired punk forever but i wasn’t & it was of it’s time and life moves on. But essentially those experiences help inform and develop us and I’ll be a punk at heart until I die.